February 14. Valentine’s day.
Also, Happy Independence day to all single people out there. Whether you are in a relationship or not, it is important to celebrate the individuality and the joy of being one person capable enough to love one’s self with or without a companion. It’s not bad to jam to these bop songs even when in you’re in a happy relationship as the list of songs expresses love for oneself and is unapologetically unique. In celebration of the momentous day of February 14, here are XSM’s recommended songs to empower your singleness and to sympathize with your feelings of ONENESS.
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When you feel that you were not treated well enough by your significant other, hop on Miley’s recent song addiction jam, ‘Flowers’. The song was published on the birthday of her Ex-Husband, Liam Hemsworth.
Fun fact: Flowers was a response to the song “When I Was Your Man By Bruno Mars” which was a song directly related to their relationship when they were still together. Now that Miley is now single, she embraces her singleness as she says, “Buy yourself flowers, take yourself dancing, and love yourself better.”
Another sweet reminder to hold on to your hand cause its time for you to see how much love you can give to yourself. Miley Cyrus indeed is an icon not to be reckoned with as she is powerful enough to hold her own hand.
When you have been through countless relationships and feel like how many more relationships you have to go through to meet the one, sit back and relax. The Queen got you. Ariana Grande told us in one of her songs, “One taught me love, one taught me patience, one taught me pain” – and it was a lesson how she was thankful for all her ex lovers.
But in the middle of the song, she wanted to give credit to herself as she was the one who taught her to love, be patient, and handle the pain from the experience. Now at this time, when things are uncertain in your past, you can join Ariana Grande in saying, Thank you, Next.
After the split between Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber, fans show their disappointment as they wish only good things for the couple. But not all good couples end up together. In response to questions and concerns of fans about it, the song ‘Lose you to Love Me’ by Selena Gomez surfaced.
The song expresses the idea that when we are in a relationship, we tend to give the world and we expect our partner to return but love is not enough to sustain the relationship. Say goodbye to the thought of holding on because it’s a waste of investment and time.
Feeling blue when your ex couldn’t stop contacting you after the breakup? ‘IDGAF’ can be your anthem. Cheaters feel remorse after the other party knows about the situation, but they never ever feel sorry about it. In the lyrics it says, “I see you tryna get to me I see you begging on your knees boy, I don’t give a fuck, so stop tryna get to me. Tchh, get up off your knees ’cause, boy, I don’t give a fu-u-uck”. Maybe Dua Lipa was right. You should not give a fuck.
Once you find peace and finally feel that you unapologetically moved on, you would want to listen to ‘Don’t Start Now’ by Dua Lipa. “Did the heartbreak change me? Maybe, but look at where I ended up I’m all good already. So moved on, it’s scary I’m not where you left me at all, So, if you don’t wanna see me dancing with somebody, if you wanna believe that anything could stop me, don’t show up, don’t come out, don’t start caring about me now.”
Embrace endings, break the cycle, and sing as you move forward.
Things are not going your way in both aspects of work and relationship? Maybe it’s time to see the light in endings. Use this time to recreate the life you have been dreaming of creating. The OG Queen Beyonce says, “I’m lookin’ for motivation I’m lookin’ for a new foundation, yeah and I’m on that new vibration I’m buildin’, my own foundation.”
‘Break My Soul’ by Beyonce is a song that perfectly exemplifies power, restart, and confidence. Let this song resonate upon you– breathe in and prepare to feel empowered for choosing yourself this time.
Lastly, in finding love for ourselves, know that it’s a never-ending cycle of progressing and regressing at some point, but let yourselves be vulnerable and accept the reality that loving yourself isn’t always an upward slope. As the song ‘We Find Love’ by Daniel Caesar goes, “We find love, we get up, then we fall down, we give up”.
See this moment as the source of strength and new beginning of a chapter. Choose to see the value stored in you as an individual. Be your own version of whole.
